Effective consequences
It’s difficult for a strong-willed child to think long term. When the consequences are extended, it loses the power to modify behavior.
You had a crummy day. Not much went right and you are exhausted. You find yourself in a Grinch mood. As a result, the rest of the day is spent complaining and venting.
A patient told me, “I have kept a secret from my husband. But if I tell him, it could end our marriage.”