Welcome to the ever creeping Internet of Everything. Too often we hear how media have taken us captive and ruined our relationships and lives. Teens texting at the dinner table, kids obsessed with gaming and never giving an adult a glance, adults constantly checking sport scores, messages or texting.
We are all guilty of allowing technology to control us. An unintended outcome of not being in control of our choices is that our family relationships could suffer.
So what is our role in taming the technology giant? How do we keep it from becoming an idol in our lives? We are responsible for managing our choices and creating the lives we want when it comes to engaging technology.
Here are two principles to balance your healthy family life with technology:
Disconnect from technology.
Briefly, disconnect from technology in order to talk, read, do homework or even play as a family. Determine not to take technology interruptions, look at your phone or engage technology in any way. This can be 30 minutes at dinner, a drive in the car together, or just a family time. See what a difference this makes in the quality of face-to-face interactions. You can unplug for brief seasons. And the benefit to your family will be felt.
Spend time with the people you love.
You can have hundreds of “friends” but no real quality relationships. So we must be intentional about connecting with family and friends in person. Look each other in the eye, talk and share. We have to work at sustaining long-term relationships and that takes being with someone. There is no substitute for real time relationships.We need to practice the skills of interpersonal relationships. A smile at the end of text does not compete with a smile and touch in person.
Technology won’t ruin your relationships if you think of it like a tool, not a substitute for real and honest relationships. Using technology, we often present our best side to people. But in authentic relationships, families see our flaws, our weaknesses and learn how to love us anyway. And that is worth a moment of disconnecting!
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