Without boundaries, our lives start spinning out of control.
Listen as Jo Rathmanner speaks with author and inspirational speaker Allison Bottke. Allison specializes in helping men and women of all ages set healthier boundaries for themselves.
In her latest book Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries, we learn the six valuable steps to helping our teenage girls cope with stress and mixed-up emotions. It’s a key discussion for any adolescent… and those who love them! As we note at the open of the discussion, the choices we make as teens can set the course for the rest of our lives.
Off the bat, Jo asks Allison why she was moved to write this book to teen girls especially.
Here are the six key steps to helping young ladies cope with the unique challenges they face:
S – Stop Ignoring Your Pain and Problems
Stop, step back, be still, and think. Your ability to focus and make smart choices will increase dramatically when you learn to resist responding emotionally (instead of rationally) to challenging situations or choices.
A – Assemble Supportive People
It is vital to have supportive, trusting people in your life who can lend advice and encouragement by listening, praying, and offering a shoulder to lean on.
N – Nip Excuses in the Bud
Excuses are often justifications of negative behavior. They can sometimes masquerade as accusations. Resist accepting excuses from those you have set boundaries.
I – Implement a Plan of Action
We often get caught up in our own thoughts, emotions, and choices. When you know where you are at and where you are headed, you can make smart choices to get there.
T – Trust the Voice of the Spirit
God has a good plan for your life, but it can take time to learn how to follow Him. When you trust God and you grow in your relationship with Him, He can lead and guide you to make healthy decisions.
Y – Yield Everything to God
You will experience freedom when you let go and let God. When you release unrealistic expectations, negative emotions, and lies of the enemy.
