The phrase “men are visual” is often used by women. But do we fully understand what that means?
Listen as Susie talks with researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and Pastor Craig Gross. They walk through the wiring of the male brain and offer important insights about purity, sexuality, and the daily challenges inside the world of men.
Shaunti and Craig teamed up to write a book called Through a Man's Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men.
Shaunti explains why she’s so passionate about it.
“I don’t think there is any one issue that so impacts men that women are so blind too. What it means is that our men are navigating this minefield every day worried about getting their feet blown off. Men in the church want to honor God in their thought life. But we don’t realize that those temptations and traps… they hate it. They feel incredible shame about it.”
Shaunti and Craig offer us some insights:
• A man’s brain is structured entirely different from a woman’s. When he sees a woman dressed a certain way, the back center of his brain lights up and he has a gut-level desire to consume that image. By contrast, a woman who sees an attractive man uses the rational, thinking section of her brain, and that typically does not elicit a physical, sexual response.
• A man feels close to his wife when they’re being physically intimate. For him, making love increases the connection, normally more than conversation.
• If a man claims he doesn’t struggle with lust, don’t be quick to call him dishonest. He may have developed strong visual habits that guard his mind and heart.
• Women who are quick to recoil or revile men for how they are wired have probably been hurt in the past. Shaunti offers a word.
“Recognize you can trust God even when you can’t trust your husband. There is a path through this. We have seen thousands and thousands of marriages restored and men finding victory from this.”
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