“The Word of God gives so much information regarding biblical love and describes it; a whole chapter is dedicated to what biblical love looks like.”

Pastor, counselor Rob Green reflects on the Biblical advice he shares with all couples he meets with in premarital counseling sessions.

“One things I love doing is having them read 1 Corinthians 13, ‘Love is kind, love is not jealous, it doesn’t boast,’ all of the wonderful descriptions that the text uses. Then I want to hear their reaction to that.”

Rob prays that each couple will cling to an important truth about the insurmountable amount of God’s love.

“I’m hoping that at the end of their study of 1 Corinthians 13, they come to a conclusion that they can never ever do that.”

“What I love to hear is for couples to walk in and say, ‘Rob that was a really challenging set of scriptures and I don’t think I can do that.’ That is exactly the kind of dependency that will actually allow them to do it. All of us would say, we can’t do it, but we do know somebody who can and somebody who can help us.’”

Rob shares a personal conviction that he experienced while preparing to teach on the “Love Chapter” at his church.

“We did a sermon series here at our church from 1 Corinthians 13 and there were several of us who were preaching. As I was listening to others, preparing for the ones that I was going to be teaching on, I was just confronted with the reality of, ‘Have I ever loved anybody?’ Because I realized that I can’t do that in my own strength.”

“It reminds us just how significant Christ, His presence and the Spirit of God dwelling in us is, and just how significant it is for us to depend on Him because we could never do that on our own. We couldn’t love like the Lord has loved us without His gracious help.”

We need to depend on Jesus Christ. He is the only one who can teach us how to truly love our spouse.

Sometimes newlyweds tend to put an onus of loving and supplying our every need on our spouse, however no one is equipped for that role.

“What God has equipped that other person to be is their spouse; not their hero and not their savior, there’s only one person who fits the job description of a savior and that’s the Lord Jesus.”

Highlight: God’s love for marriage

The importance of premarital counseling

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