How can a woman steer and influence her marriage? Listen as Focus on the Family’s Erin Smalley joins Susie to talk about ten keys to being a wife of influence. Erin’s new book is .
Every woman enters marriage with expectations – some realistic, some unrealistic. We can get so focused on the negatives in our spouse and the disappointment we feel that we forget the amazing force for good a woman can be in her marriage. Susie and Erin unpack this principle, as well as:
• The power of conflict in strengthening a marriage
• Transforming any marriage situation for the better (really!)
• What it means to experience the marriage you’ve always wanted
• Infusing your marriage with vitality
• Rekindling passion (both emotional and physical)
• How to pursue dreams for you and your husband
What does it mean to honor your spouse? Erin says there are two key concepts – cherishing and nourishing. Cherishing your husband is an attitude; nourishing your relationship with him is a choice.
Ask yourself, how does your husband feel loved? Erin suggests learning your husband’s love language and taking small steps toward him, even when you feel hurt or disappointed. Small acts of love on your part will keep your heart open and your commitment strong, even when your husband won’t reciprocate. Erin makes it clear, this does not apply in an abusive relationship – women in unhealthy marriages need to seek help.
In Erin’s words, “This applies if he’s being lazy, or selfish… things that we are fully capable of also doing. Make a list of things you admire about him, things that… made you say ‘yes’ to the first date or ‘yes’ when he proposed. Go through item by item.” Choosing to turn toward each other in difficult seasons will mantain the connection that God brought together.
Erin’s other books include Grown-Up Girlfriends and .
Key Scriptures: Ephesians 6:7-9; James 3; Ephesians 4:32
Theme Song: This Little Light of Mine by Addison Road
