“Ka me, ka thee” is a common proverb in our world. It means “You serve me, I serve you.”

But when have you chosen to serve someone who can do absolutely nothing for you? Jessica Thompson joins the program and offers practical ways to show grace to the people in our lives, whether or not they can return it.

“This is one of the primary problems with our relationships. I’m going to act a certain way that’s good – now you act in a certain way that’s good.” Jessica likens this to karma and points out that it’s ultimately self-focused. “We’re not loving each other; we’re loving ourselves and our own reputations. We fail, we’re broken, we mess up in relationships all the time. Maybe my husband loves me really well, all the time. But that doesn’t mean I’m going to love him back.”

True love gives rather than takes. 

Jessica and Susie unpack:

• The inward-focused life.

• How to release expectations on those around us.

“We expect people to treat us like Jesus and we expect people to be Jesus to us. But there’s only one Savior. If we can come as a fellow sinner saying ‘Let’s run to to our Savior together,’ it makes a huge difference. Remembering who you are before God will change how you go to others.”

• Signs of a toxic friendship.

• How to love unlovable people. Jessica calls us to have patience with those who are prickly or easily offended.

“It’s not this huge overbearing thing that we’ve made it out to be; it’s actually a light and momentary affliction compared to the glory that is awaiting us.” When we remember who we are in Christ, and how much we’ve been forgiven, we can more easily love those around us.

Key Scriptures: Hebrews 12:3; Romans 15:3; John 13:34-35

Featured Songs: My Lighthouse by Rend Collective; Here I Am by Jeremy Camp; Center of It by Chris August

Highlight : Letting go of small offenses

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