How do you manage crises in your marriage? Dr. Greg Smalley of Focus on the Family returns to talk about coping with stress and the stuff of life while maintaining connection with your spouse.
What’s the difference between a conflict and a crisis?
Conflict: Greg defines this as internal strife between you and your spouse.
Crisis: “There are so many things – financial problems, disaster, miscarriage, loss of a job, family strife… it creates a very different season. There are some important things we need to be doing to protect our relationship. Each one of these different things can catch you off guard.”
Greg shares how he and his wife Erin stay connected and healthy in crises.
1. Recognize the spiritual warfare that comes with every crisis. “Satan is out to destroy our one-ness.” Increase your prayer covering and keep short accounts.
2. “Rediscover what can give you life.” Greg and his family are walking through a difficult season involving his father’s health problems. Greg shares how he is tempted to react – withdraw and eat unhealthy food. Instead he challenges himself – and us – to intentionally turn to God first and our spouse second. He also challenges us to work out or do physical activity to burn off some of the stress that we’re feeling.
3. Practice the principles in James – be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry.
4. Actively serve others. Greg shares how a neighborhood couple turned up on the Smalley doorstep recently seeking help after an extra-marital affair. He wasn’t sure he had the energy to serve – but God gave him strength. “It’s so easy to get consumed with managing the crisis – it’s been amazing to be a part of their story and see them reconcile.”
Key Scriptures: Romans 15:13
Featured Songs: Let the Music Play by Chris August; Restore by Chris August; Friends Are Friends Forever by Michael W. Smith
This program has been previously aired.