Highly relational people love to breathe grace.
They draw continually on the goodness and power of Jesus Christ, and then they breathe his love, kindness and wisdom into all of their relationships.
This is what the Apostle Paul had in mind in Ephesians 4:29, where he calls each of us to “give grace” to others.
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
What does Paul mean by the word “grace”? It is a rich biblical term. In a broad sense, grace often refers to the kindness of God to man (Luke 1:30). But Paul usually uses it to describe something even more wonderful, which is God’s kindness or mercy to those who do not deserve it, actually, to those who deserves just the opposite! (Eph. 2:1-5).
Breathing grace means to breathe in God’s grace, which is the undeserved love, kindness, mercy, forgiveness, strength, and wisdom that he gives to us through Jesus Christ, and then breathe it out to others, even if they do not deserve it.
We take our first deep breath of God’s grace by believing in his Son and receiving his gift of forgiveness. We can continue to breathe in his grace on a moment-by-moment basis by studying and mediating on his Word, by praying to him, by thanking him for his mercy and rejoicing in our salvation, by delighting in his character and many kindnesses, by worshiping him, by partaking of the Lord’s Supper, and by enjoying the fellowship of other believers.
As we fill our souls with his grace, he wants us to breathe it out to others. We usually do this with our words, but we can also do it with our actions. This can be done in countless ways (I had to work hard to shorten the list!):
• By bringing hope through the gospel (Col. 1:5).
• By praying for others (Phil. 1:3-6).
• By bringing encouraging words, a cheerful look, or good news to others (Prov. 15:30; 16:24).
• By reading Scripture to others (1 Thess. 2:13).
• By giving a gentle answer in response to anger (Prov. 15:1).
• By bringing laughter and music to others (Ps. 126:2).
• By looking for the good in others instead of the bad (Prov. 11:27).
• By making charitable judgments about others, that is, believing the best about them until you have facts to prove otherwise (Matt. 7:12; 1 Cor. 13:7).
• By confessing your wrongs and acknowledging God’s mercy (Ps. 51; 1 Tim. 1:15-17).
• By drawing attention to EGG’s (evidences of God’s grace) in other people’s lives (1 Cor. 1:4-9).
• By gently showing others their faults (Gal. 6:1).
• By appealing for mercy on behalf of others (1 Sam. 25:1-38).
• By forgiving others as God has forgiven us (Luke 23:34; Eph. 4:32).
The more deliberately you breathe in the grace of God today, the more you will breathe out his grace to others … and experience the kind of relationships that reflect his love and extend his kingdom (John 13:34-35).
