Do you ever wonder how different high school is for today’s teens?
A recent documentary series provides us an inside look. Producers followed 7 adults, ages 21 to 26, as they posed as students at Highland Park High School in Topeka, Kansas, during the spring 2017 semester. The series aired on A&E and was entitled, Under Cover High. The idea was to know and document what high school is really like today. Is it that different than say 5-10 years ago? The under cover students said, “Yes.”
Here are 4 important findings that came out of filming documentary. You will have to listen to the show, to hear the rest of the findings. Some may surprise you.
Cell phone use is rampant and teens are constantly connected.
Social media has become a game changer in high school. It pressures and distracts teens from the real task of learning. Even though most school have policies to limit the use of cell phones, students often disregarded the policies and teachers had difficulty enforcing cell phone use. School administrators must provide guidelines and expectations to students and parents regarding cell phone use and they must enforce them consistently.
Girls are constantly pressured to share sexual pictures of themselves.
And then they wait for a social media rating on their photos. This is the one that surprised me. The sexual pressures put on girls are enormous. One of the under cover students was an attractive Hispanic girl. The first day of school, she received social media messages from boys wanting to have sex with her.
Parents, talk to your girls and boys about boundaries, responding to sexual messages and posting. What they share is permanent and can’t be retrieved. And they need help resisting this type of peer pressure.
Students struggle with depression in record numbers.
Part of this is related to social media use and defining who they are though image and peer-based reactions. Add to this the pressure to wear the right clothes and look a certain way with the normal angst of teen living– all of this pressure can lead to depression. Bullying, as mentioned above, is a factor in this as well. When students don’t feel they live up to social media images, they can develop depression.
The need for human connection is missing.
Despite all the cyber connections to people, real time relationships have been lost. Teens want adults to understand them and see what they are facing. Teens need our guidance. But we have to tune into their world and take the time to listen.
High school has rapidly changed given the use of technology and new pressures that our teens face. Talk to your teen about the unique stress and pressures they face. Help them mold their identity with your influence and relationship connection. Parents remain the most important influence in a teen’s life.Lessons from Under Cover High School