Dads, do you know that you are a hero in your child’s eyes? Although you may not feel like a hero, Dr. Meg Meeker wants to remind you that God already wired you with everything it takes to be the strong father your children need.
She explains how meeting the deepest needs of our children stems from our relationship with our Heavenly Father.
“We look to God the Father saying ‘God, do you love me? Do you really, really love me?’ When we feel that yes He does, it’s wonderful.”
“‘God, do you really believe that I’m okay? Do you really believe that I can do this?’ When He communicates, ‘yes, we’re okay.’”
“Finally, ‘God, is there hope for my future?’ When we feel that God confirms affirms, ‘yes there is,’ then we feel whole.”
“The very things that men want from God, are the very things they are equipped to give their children. All they need to do is answer a few key questions for their kids. That’s what puts our kids on solid ground.”
There are lot of men who internally struggle with insecurities and the fear of failure. Dr. Meeker points out that one of the hindrances for hero dads is that many of them aren’t receiving the respect that they need to thrive.
“I’ve seen men who can run big companies, they can be excellent carpenters, they can be excellent in their job, but then they go home and say, ‘I just don’t know what to do.’ I work with the N.F.L., for instance, these are men who are elite athletes; they got it on the field, and then they come home and they go, ‘I really don’t know what to say. I don’t think I’m good enough.’”
Instead of sweating the small stuff, Dr. Meeker wants to encourage men to overcome their insecurities, focus on the big things in life, and embrace their calling as a hero dad.
“Every father has blown it; every father has yelled at his kids, every father has made a horrible mistake with his kids, and every father has wounded his kids. But that’s okay! As long as you’re getting the big things right and as you walk along you ask for forgiveness for losing your temper, kids are going to forgive you because they need you in their lives.”
“It’s really a win-win for dads. There’s no reason for dads to feel as insecure as they do. My message is you’ve already got it inside. The wiring is there you just need a little spark of electricity to the wiring.”
Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician, mother, best-selling author of six books, and is the country’s leading authority on parenting, teens and children’s health. She is the author of Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Children Need.Hero dads