We all know that having good habits is an essential part of living life to the fullest. But what happens when good habits are taken to the extreme and result in harm to ourselves and others?
Dr. Troy Spurrill, of the Synapse Center for Health and Healing, shares the dark side of having good habits. One example of a good habit gone wrong is the habit of being supportive of others.
“A lot of people will actually like to support others; they have a heart support others. That can be a strength of theirs and something they find valuable.”
However, Dr. Troy says the reality is that all good habits have a dark side if they aren’t in balance.
“The reality is, you can support to an extent that you over support and become a martyr or a victim and you can stop feeling good about supporting.”
We can become so resentful of over-helping that we actually become physically sick.
Another dark side of being overly supportive is that it can actually hurt the person we are trying to help.
“Just because we are a good supporter doesn’t mean we don’t have to discern when that supporting becomes enabling.”
We might have the best intentions imaginable, but we still need balance. Too much of a good thing is bad.
Dr. Troy says that being overly supportive can also be a symptom of a deeper need to please people. More often than not, this need to please can become an idol when it supersedes our desire to please God above all things.
“People pleasing starts with being that supportive person. The origin is usually a good origin and we can justify it for a life time and be wrong.”
Dr. Troy recommends that anyone who struggles with people pleasing take time to pray and talk to God and actually listen to Him and ask Him to help set healthy boundaries when it comes to supporting people.
Dr. Troy Spurrill is the CEO and founder of Synapse: A Center For Health and Healing. He received a Bachelor’s of Science in Molecular Biology from the University of Manitoba and a Doctor of Chiropractic from Northwestern Health Sciences University, and has extensive training in Functional Neurology, Functional medicine, Nutrition, and Applied Kinesiology.
Key Scripture: Romans 12:1
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