We’re all wired to connect with others. But what happens when that God-given gift leads us into relationships that are one-sided, unhealthy, or even abusive? Author and counselor Leslie Vernick says we can train ourselves to recognize and exit unwanted connections, and she joins Susie to explain how. Listen as we unpack principles from her book, .

What are the traits of an emotionally destructive relationship? Leslie urges us to look for these patterns:

• One person spends time demeaning or dominating the other
• Jealousy or possessiveness
• Isolation from friends and family
• Manipulation or guilt
• Spiritual abuse – using Scripture or the role of the man in the marriage to brow-beat the other into submission

What should we look for in a healthy relationship of any type?

Mutuality – both people are being responsible, honest, and loving.

Reciprocity – there’s a give and take, where both people are loving and serving each other.

Freedom – each person can be themselves, speak up, say no or disagree with the other person without fear of retaliation or rejection.

Above all, Leslie and Susie say, learn to say “no.” A healthy relationship is one in which one person can say “no” or voice their opinion. God values relationships and marriages, but He also values the people within those relationships.

If you’re in an unsafe relationship, Leslie urges you to tell someone, a counselor, a police officer, a close friend.

“You need someone who can help you assess how much danger you’re in. God will give you the strength to take the next step. Bathe it in prayer. God wants to help you. Once your abuser knows that you’re not going to keep it a secret anymore, he loses control over you. Use your voice, the legal authority, for you to protect yourself and your children. That’s not wrong – that’s a good thing.”

Key Scriptures: Psalm 107:20; Proverbs 4:23

Theme Song: Word of God Speak by MercyMe

Highlight : Does love conquer all?

Is this a healthy relationship?

This program has been previously aired.